This is a particular busy season for engagements and right after a bride in St Louis, or anywhere else, gets engaged, one of the first thing she does is usually pick who will be standing next to her at the wedding.
This decision is usually made before almost anything else in the wedding planning process, even before hiring an experienced St. Louis wedding planner. Then sometimes, when it is time for the bride to look for help, when she needs support from her bridal party, a bridal party member may become difficult, doesn't show up on time, or fights with other bridesmaids.Weddings are emotional times.
I decided to compile a couple questions that you should consider before you make your decision. These might help you screen who might be a good fit or not, to stand by you on your wedding day.
1. Can they financially afford all the costs associated with the wedding?
There are a lot of costs that go into being a bridesmaid: dress, hair, makeup, shower, Bachelorette party, gifts, flight and hotel costs. Be sensitive to your friend's situation and let them know that you would understand if they can't afford being part of your wedding. Money can be a sensitive issue that will create some tensions.
2. Have they been there for me when I needed them?
This is a tough question and what I mean by it is, have they been consistently there for you to support you throughout your life. Try and consider people that you know will be in you and your fiance's life for many years to come. Will you be talking to them 20 years from now?
3. Can I count on them?
Sadly, I cannot tell you how many times in previous weddings I have witnessed a bridal party member not taking their roles at heart, showing up late, or creating drama and trying to draw attention to themselves on the day that the attention should be on the couple.
4. How many attendants can I afford?
Yes, attendants are a financial factor as well. They deserve a gift for all their help, for supporting and standing by you on your special day. And you cannot skimp, so please take this into account when you are considering how many bridal party members to ask.
And lastly, please do not ask someone to stand by you on your wedding day simply because you do not want to leave them out. Trust me, they will be understanding if you are good friends. And you still have the option to involve them in other aspects of the day.
Who did you pick to stand by you?
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